So is this what happens to a normal woman after its over?

There is so much I could go into regarding the situation the ex and I have found ourselves in. I guess to be strait I should say I have found myself in. There is also a great deal of things I have learned about women over the time that has ped since we were a family. It all started last February. Well it started long before that I guess but the true part of what I call a living hell started in February. Like most relationships that end in divorce mine was no different. There was obviously a breakdown in our relationship that reached a point she couldn't take and that's when she shut down to me and moved into our second home. I knew we didn't get along like we should have the last year or so of our marriage. I just didn't know how to fix it. We both started to focus on each others negatives. When this happened it was all to easy to allow the negativity to grow. What once was a relationship I believed was unbreakable with a woman who even to this day I believe is my sole mate. I had the greatest times of my life to date with her and her two little girls. Ah the girls.... The whole reason for this question. My wife had been married before. She had only ever been with this one man who she had dated since 15 and eventually married at 19. The marriage produced two beautiful children. Shortly after the youngest was born for pretty much the same reasons our marriage ended theirs had ended. When I saw her for the first time I knew she was the one. Her daughters were 1 and 4 years old and instantly it seemed as though we all were perfect fit. We dated for two years before I walked her down the isle. We were happy. We were a family. I have always treated the girls as if they were my own. The natural father had his visitation and over the next 4 1/2 years I was their step father. The youngest and I were the closest. I believe only because she was to young to ever remember a time when her parents were actually a couple. To her this was just the way things were. I learned a great deal from these girls. I will always consider them my own kids regardless Dawn and I didn't make it. Dawn is a wonderful woman with a heart of gold. That is until she is done with you. Since the day she left she has been a woman I do not know. Her first husband she lied to the police one day about something her ex had said to her and as a result he had a 5 year no contact order placed on him. He honestly didn't do anything. I said nothing at the time it happened because It didn't concern me. She basically was mad at him for dropping the girls off late one morning. He said something smart to her as he left and this pissed her off. She seeks revenge and was always mad at him because the marriage failed. It was always his fault. She called the police and told them he said he was going to kill her. A result was 2nd degree harment $2000 fine and 10 days in jail. The court went solely of her testimony and convicted him. She then had all the power she ever wanted over him because of this. Multiple times she called in false violations on him when she was angry. I didn't do anything as far as I was concerned it was not my place. Guess what The whole ordeal started in February for me. When she left I tried to fix it. I did everything I could think of to help her to be the best husband I could. This of course didn't do anything but made her mad. A little to late. Yep you guessed it she got a temp no contact order on me 2 weeks after she moved. She never accused me of any abuse of any type just wanted 100% control over the house of ours she moved to. I was a wreck. I needed my family so bad. I found out real fast how important they were to me. Nothing I did could have changed her mind.